How To Get The First Meeting

First of all, I’m going to explain my mindset: I have decided that I need about 20-30 minutes to get to know a woman before I decide to invest in getting to ‘really’ know her.

I actually like women for their company, and who I’d enjoy seeing for more than just one ‘get laid’ session.

So I like to meet a woman for a cup of tea and talk for a bit, or even let that lead to a bite to eat sometimes. So my mindset is that I’M THERE TO QUALIFY THEM. Not the other way around. They pick up on this mentality and

respond accordingly.

Be Prepared! Expect

It’s funny to me that so many people expect to fail. For instance, I once heard someone say, “A woman won’t get into an unmade bed.” This is actually pretty interesting if you think about it. My point here is to encourage you to not only expect success in your mind, but also expect success in the real world.

Here are a couple of ways to expect and plan for success:

See where I’m going with this?

If you’re not prepared to have a guest, then you’re going to do all kinds of things to screw up your chances of success with women.

Right now, think of all the things you need to do so that there are NO obstacles preventing you from success in your car, house, etc.

Now let’s talk about a few ways to REALLY separate yourself from most other men.

Learn A Few Cold Reading Methods

Women love things like Astrology, Tarot Cards, Palmistry, Handwriting Analysis, Psychics, and anything else you can think of that most men aren’t interested in.

Here’s what to do:

Go get the books “Handwriting Analysis” by Karen Amend, “Palm Reading: A Little Guide To Life’s Secrets” by Dennis Fairchild. and “An Introduction to Hand Reflexology” by Denise Brown. You can order all of them at Amazon.com.

Then sit down for an evening and read them. Learn some basics about how to tell people what they’re like from studying handwriting samples, looking at their palms, feeling tension in their bodies, etc.

This stuff is ABSOLUTELY FASCINATING to women.

All you have to do is take a woman’s hand, look at it, and say, “Well, you’re a very interesting person.”

That’s it... it’s almost like magic.

After revealing to her all of her secret desires, you can move directly into your hand massage and Reflexology methods. I’m hoping that the benefits of these techniques speak for themselves.

By the way, it doesn’t hurt to know a few advanced or unusual massage moves either. So you might want to check out a couple of books on massage while you’re at it.

How To Take The Next Step

OK, so we’re on the way home from coffee (because I said, “OK, let’s go…”) and we’re back at my house. Here’s one that I love… If it’s at night, look at your watch and

say, “Well, I have to get up early in the morning… but… OK, you can come in for a few minutes…”

This is perfect! You’re talking to her like she’s trying to convince you to let her in, and she hasn’t said anything! Nice. (Read it again if you didn’t pick up what I

said.)

Then I just walk in and let her follow. (By the way, again, I always open doors for women, walk on the outside of the curb, and pull chairs out, etc.) If you act chivalrous and bust her balls at the same time, you’ll be rewarded with good things from Santa.

So now we’re in the house… and I take her for a tour… and either sit down on my bed to talk to her or on the couch… wherever we kind of wind up. And I just kind of get a little quieter and let her talk while I look at her. I lean away from her and keep looking… sometimes looking away as if I’m thinking about something.

Then, I reach over and start stroking her hair while she’s talking. I stroke down at the bottom first. If she’s OK with this, I take it as a sign that she’s WAAYYYYY into me and is probably going to be wanting sex within 60 minutes (if you have any doubts, ask a woman if she’ll let a guy stroke her hair while she’s on his bed on the first

date if she’s not into him).

This is a big piece of the puzzle that I’ve figured out… I used to do all kinds of massages and other stuff, but I now use the simple hair stroke test. If they like their hair stroked, they are at VERY LEAST going to be making out with me in short order, period. I’ll occasionally do a hand massage here or a little neck massage, but next I pull her close to me and cuddle with her… and then land the killer.

I have personally always liked the way women smell… so when she’s laying next to me with my stroking her hair, I begin to smell her shoulders… just a little at first, and then more and more… while stroking her hair. Within about 5 or 10 minutes, I’m smelling her neck and ears…no kissing, and no groping at all. Never! I’m just smelling,

then leaning back and acting like I’m completely enjoying the smelling, and it’s relaxing me. Try this, my friends… if you can keep on smelling… she’ll get so turned on that you won’t believe it! At some point she’ll try to kiss me… which is what I’m waiting for. I will let her lips get close to mine… even touch just a teensy bit… and then I’ll back away and keep smelling. I might say, “Oh, you’re kind of forward” … love it. After a few of these, I’ll kiss her… and run my hands through her hair… the whole romantic kiss thing… then, again, I’ll stop. This kind of teasing and teasing is very stimulating to women. They love it.

I’m waiting for her to start doing something that is sexual... for instance grinding her hips on me... or grabbing my ass... whatever.

When I’m patient, the woman will usually do something that is subtly sexual FIRST. This is key, as she’s then the aggressor....

Then I do a little verbal move and say, “All you have to do is say PLEASE.”

I’m laughing as I write this... damn this is great.

So the first time, she’ll say, “No no no... I’m not going to beg you...” and I just say, “OK”...

Then I roll over or just lay back and look up... away from her. This usually makes the woman begin to wonder what the heck is going on and come over and start cuddling, kissing, etc. me again.

I keep on with the sensual kissing, breathing in her ears... all that good stuff... and when she gets worked up again and I hear her breathing getting faster, heart rate increasing, etc., I just say, “All you have to do is say PLEASE...”

OK, you get the idea... I keep doing this until she says, “OK OK, please... please...”

If you need help on what to do after this step, buy a copy of” How To Drive Your Woman Wild In Bed” by Graham Masterson and “Sexational Secrets” by Susan Bakos. Do it.

Getting Them Interested In You

An important distinction that I’ve made which attracts women is to never act too happy.

Women are intrigued by men who are calm and almost unaffected. The real hotties are used to having men get nervous when talking to them, and they can sense that you’re different when you stay very cool and calmly talk to them.

NEVER let them sense that you’re too interested in the beginning.

I just read tonight in a book about cats that a cat will approach the person in the room that is least interested in it. Somehow, cats can detect when someone is paying no attention, which is what attracts them. WOMEN ARE THE SAME.

I know that this one doesn’t make any sense, but if you start acting uninterested, you’ll see that women will start giving you the “What’s wrong? You don’t like me?” response. Now, you may think this is manipulation, but I think of it as having fun, teasing, and being challenging. And by the way, I’ve told several women about this stuff later on after I got to know them better... and they ALL told me that it worked, and they’re glad that I did it in one way or another.

Chivalry

My experience is that women love chivalry.

I personally like to open doors for women, etc.

Here are a few things that you can do that women will find irresistible:

Open doors for them. I open all doors. Car doors, house doors, restaurant doors... any door that shows up. If you step just a little ahead and open each door, this will create an impression.

Pull out their chairs. Only do this if it makes sense and it’s reasonable. But if you can, do it. Women love to feel like a man is watching over them and making sure they are taken care of. This is another little way to show it.

Walk on the outside of the sidewalk. Most men, and even many women, don’t know that men are ‘supposed’ to walk on the outside of the sidewalk (closest to the traffic) just in case a car jumps the curb, so she’ll be safe and he’ll instead be hit. Do this, and if they don’t know why you’re doing it, explain the reason. Nice touch.

Where To Meet Women

Here’s the deal: If you want to meet more women, you have to go to the places where they go.

If you like athletic women, go to the gym or spend time at the coffee shop or juice bar next to a gym.

If you like spiritual women, take yoga or meditation classes.

If you like large women, hang out at Weight Watchers.

Are you with me here?

The point is that you have to put yourself in a ‘high probability’ situation to meet women.

A sure place to find single women is bars and nightclubs. But this is also a sure place to find a lot of horny guys that are trying to pick up these women.

I’ll talk later about how to be successful in different situations, but for now I’d like you to think about where women that you’d like to meet hang out. And then start going there yourself.

A great place to meet women is ONLINE. If you need practice talking to women, invest in an AOL membership. For $23.90 a month, you can chat with women 24/7. I look at AOL as a ‘woman simulator’. You get on, start talking, and on the other end a woman simulator is there to respond to all of your conversation. It’s amazing. And the added bonus is that if a woman turns out to be interesting, you can actually meet her.

My point is simply to put on your thinking cap and ask yourself the question: “If I were the kind of woman who I’d like to meet, where would I hang out?”

Then start going to these places on different days and at different times to find when the best opportunities are.

I have a good friend that used to go to airports when flights were arriving from different places, because some of the flights were more likely to have attractive women on them.

I know one guy that loves to go to bookstores to meet women.

I know a guy that likes to go to ‘Asian Dances’ to meet women (and he’s not Asian).

Here are a few good general places: Dance lessons, gyms, bookstores, coffee shops, supermarkets, healthy food restaurants, yogurt shops, and anything near salons and beauty supply stores.

If you start paying attention, you’ll find places where women are more likely to be.

As a side note, if you live in an out-of-the-way place, and you’d like to start meeting a lot of fantastically beautiful women, you might consider a move to a big city. I’ve found the difference between big cities like New York, Chicago, L.A., etc., and small towns is dramatic. Attractive women flock to the large cities because this is where the opportunity is for them. This is also where they’re more likely to meet a rich, famous, or successful man.

I’ve been to places in big cities that had more beautiful women in one restaurant than a person living in a small town might see all year.

So think about where you live and how it relates to meeting the kind of woman or women that you’re interested in finding.

I’ve also found that many women love the fantasy of ‘accidentally’ meeting a man somewhere normal, but unexpected. This is a common female fantasy.

Women like the idea of accidental romance.

And the best part of meeting a woman in a ‘normal’ place is the fact that there are usually minimal distractions and no one else competing for her attention.

So keep this in mind when you’re out looking for potential mates.

On Cuddling

I personally love to cuddle. I discovered something almost entirely by accident one time when I was talking to a girl on the phone one night. We were having a discussion about the differences between men and women and I said something to this effect:

“Do you like to cuddle? I really like to cuddle… as a matter of fact, if I had to choose between cuddling and sex, I’d choose cuddling. Now don’t get me wrong, I love sex… but cuddling is the best… can you cuddle all night?”

Then I said, “I really like to kiss, and I can just kiss and cuddle... and touch someone all night... and feel wonderful...”

By the time I was finished, she started saying, “I’m really getting turned on right now”... she actually asked me to have phone sex with her!

I’ve had this happen on the phone several times since, and it’s not a coincidence.

When you’re talking to a woman, if you start talking about kissing, cuddling, touching... and you are very specific about it... “I like to run the tips of my fingers over the part of your shoulder where it touches your neck” ... a woman will start to actually experience it.

Try this one!

If you can learn how to talk to women in a way that stimulates their imagination, you can get them turned on over the phone.

I’m sure you can imagine the benefits of having this skill. If you don’t have any idea how to talk romantically, just read a couple of romance novels. I know that they make no sense, but use the stuff anyway. It works!

Two Ways Women Think About Men And How You Can Control

This I believe that women see men with whom they get involved as either ‘long-term relationship’ material or ‘sex’ material. You have to make the choice about which category you’d like to be in. By the way, if you get involved sexually, you can usually extend that for as long as you’d like.

If, on the other hand, you don’t get involved sexually but you still buy her dinner, call her all the time, and pursue her, there’s a good chance that you’ll NEVER get involved with her sexually.

Many, if not most guys, think that if they play the dating game that they’ll wind up ‘getting some’ eventually. This just isn’t so. I’ve met so many women who say, “Well, I have this guy that I let buy me things and take me out, and I have this other one that’s my sex toy.”

Now, admittedly this isn’t all women. But believe me when I tell you that if you get on the ‘friendship’ program, you’re very likely to stay there. And the friendship road is

paved with gifts and dinners.

Trust me. If you do too many things for her, you’re going to spend a lot of time and $$$ and most likely never wind up with anything to show for it other than a curious dry feeling just below your abdomen.

For the record, I really do like e-mail communication better than phone communication. I get probably 4 out of 5 women that I e-mail to write back, as opposed to maybe 1 out of 2 or 3 calls returned the first time.

I write and say, “Hey, it was nice meeting you last night… what are you up to this week? Would you like to join me for a cup of something wonderful and some stimulating conversation? Talk to me.”

If they don’t answer that one, I write back a couple of days later with, “What, playing hard to get already? Nice. Talk to me.”

I get most of them e-mailing me back by this point.

When they do, I say, “What’s your # and when’s a good time to reach you?”

Now, here’s why I do this… Duh! When I e-mail them, for some reason they feel like we’re friends because we’ve e-mailed back and forth… don’t ask me to explain it… it’s taken me two and a half years to figure it out.

They also return your calls after you’ve e-mailed them a couple of times… again, don’t ask me why, some freaky chick thing.

OK… so now I’m on the phone with them (either because I’ve e-mailed them, or because I just got a number and called). I want to get together with them for about 30 minutes and see what they’re like as a person and decide if they’re someone who I’d like to know better.

I’ll tell them that I was about to go do something (to remind myself and let them know that I have a life) and then say, “Well, let’s see… what’s your schedule for the next few days? (I choose a time based on her reply…) Why don’t we get together tomorrow at about four. Do you know where the blah blah blah coffee shop is? Great… if we get along, then maybe we can go for a bite to eat… but you know, coffee is a safe bet… this way, if you’re scary in person, I can say, “Oh, hey… um… I just remembered that I have to go floss my cat… it’s really important…” and then we can call it a night.”

This makes them laugh, but it also gets them thinking, “Who the hell is this guy to be qualifying me?” which is perfect.

Next, I tell them, “The coffee place is close to my house so why don’t you just meet me at my place, ring the bell, and I’ll come out and we can go… this way if you’re a few minutes early or late, I don’t have to be waiting.” (I got this idea from a friend of mine.)

Then I say, “Now, let me ask you this… what are the chances that you’re not going to show up tomorrow? <Let her answer> Because one of my pet peeves is people that are late or flaky. I can deal with a lot of things, but I’m always on time where I say I’m going to be, and I never have an excuse or don’t show up… so I just wanted to make sure… because if there’s one thing that could end our friendship before it starts, it’s flakiness.” This sets the right tone for flaking, as you can see.

***HERE COMES THE KILLER!

Next, when we’re getting ready to hang up, I say something like, “Great, it’s going to be nice to get to know you better. And if nothing else, we can just be FRIENDS.”

It’s taken me and a good friend of mine a long time to get this piece. From here on out, I constantly drop hints about just ‘being friends’ and how I really ‘like her as a friend’ and how ‘it’s nice to meet someone that I like as a friend’.

Trust me on this one… this messes them up soooooo hard that they literally don’t know what to do.

This is most likely the first time IN THEIR ENTIRE LIFE that this has happened to them. It continually triggers their insecurity and makes them wonder why

they’re not attractive enough to you. It also disarms them completely. (You have to really possess the mindset that you are qualifying them and that they’re going to be your friend for this to work)

I personally like to use the friendship jargon because I have decided that it’s better to enter any new relationship in a ‘NOT NEEDY’ frame of mind. Talking about being friends reminds ME to pay more attention and to remember that I don’t need anything and to stay focused on learning.

10 Steps To A Guaranteed Great Date

Remember that YOU are qualifying HER to see if she is someone you want to spend more time with… and not the other way around. Too many dinners and gifts early on will lead you into ‘the friendship zone’. Impress her with YOURSELF instead. E-mail her first to build to build familiarity. Call her on the phone to set up the date after she e-mails you back. On the phone, joke that SHE might turn out to be weird. This subtlety lets her know that YOU are normal and fun. Have her meet you at your place so you don’t end up waiting around… and so she will be coming back to your place afterwards.  Use ‘The Flake Test’ – Ask her what the chances are that she won’t show to set the tone up front. Be the first to say “friends” – let her know that you are looking forward to making a friend if nothing else… this lets her know you have no expectations and aren’t needy or desperate. Mention this during the date! Show her that you aren’t overly interested by heading to the coffee shop quickly instead of lingering around at your place. At the coffee shop, RELAX and treat her like your best friend. Lean back, talk about INTERESTING topics like drama, violence, scandal, or comedy, and make cocky/funny jokes.  You can save the compliments for another time. If you want to spend more time with her, go someplace where the conversation is built-in, like a place with fun shops and things to do. Wander away from her a few times to communicate that you aren’t ‘needy’ or clingy.

Your 7-Step Guide To Getting Physical

When you get back to the house, say, “Well, I have to get up early in the morning...but...OK, you can come in for a few minutes...” Take her on a quick tour and then sit down on a bed or on the couch. Use ‘The Kiss Test’ – Start stroking the bottom of her hair while you are talking. If she enjoys it, she’s into you! Lean in and lightly smell her shoulders… then pull back… then do it again. Slowly work your way up to smelling her neck and ears. Keep building up tension… and finally give her a kiss… then pull back. Accuse HER of being “forward”. Wait for her to make the first sexually aggressive move… then say, “All you have to do is say please”. If she says, “No no no...”, just roll over and look up away from her, which will make her curious. Pull back again and wait for her to come to you. Turn up the heat with the sensual kissing, breathing in her ears, etc. until she gets more excited (i.e. breathing getting faster, heart race starts increasing, etc.)… then make her say “please” again!

Places To Go

I’ve learned that it’s more interesting to GO somewhere and DO something with a woman than it is to go on a ‘date’.

If you want to do more than just have coffee with a

woman, consider going somewhere fun to shop. I prefer funky, eclectic neighborhoods and shops. These are places full of wacky and fun items. It will give you an ongoing, changing set of things to talk about.

And the best part is that you don’t have to buy anything.

When you go to these types of places, you can just have fun and talk. Make sure you wander away from her a few times while you’re out. This keeps the ‘I’m not

needy’ thing going on.

Remember, you don’t have to spend money to have fun.

Where And How To Meet Women

I intuitively determined that there are certain major steps to ‘meeting women’, if you will. This is how my mind naturally thinks.

I’ve now broken these down in my mind to chunks like ‘Approaching Women’, ‘Getting Phone Numbers’, etc. which I’ll explain here and in future chapters.

I’d like to add here that different people have different personal views regarding meeting women, ‘getting laid’, relationships, etc.

I’m not going to try to convince you that my way is the best, but I’ll share some of my personal values with you. When I’m in a ‘relationship’ with a woman and we’ve agreed to be ‘exclusive’, then I’m faithful to that woman.

If I’m single, then I date whoever I want, whenever I want, and have no problems or hang ups with sex, seeing more than one woman at a time, etc. Some people see things differently, which is fine, but I wanted you to know where I was coming from on this issue.

By the way, the things that I’m sharing with you work whether you’re just meeting a woman or if you’ve known her for years... or even if you’ve been married forever.

And contrary to what many men think, women usually love it that you’ve taken the time to learn things like what I’m teaching you. It makes things more fun and interesting for them.

Voice Tone

Voice tone is VERY important.

If you want to be more successful with women, work on developing a deep, resonant, musical, articulate voice tone.

And I don’t care if you have the whiniest, highest pitched voice anyone’s ever heard.

You can improve it if you try.

First of all, practice talking slower and deeper.

You should be able to feel your voice resonating in your chest when you talk.

Keep practicing until you can.

I highly recommend that you go out and buy the audio series “The Sound Of Your Voice” by Carol Flemming.

Also, get on eBay or Amazon.com and look for some voice training tapes.

They’re well worth the investment and practice. Women find a sexy voice irresistible. This is a big one, so get to work on it.

Fear

If you need to get ‘fear’ handled, read the book, “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers. This is an AWESOME book on getting fear handled.

On Persistence:

A common theme I hear:

“NO

No

No

No

No

NO

NOOO

Noooo

Make love to me right now!”

Persistence is key. Never give up… if a woman says, “We’re not going to have sex tonight”, I immediately think to myself, “Ohhh, she just let me know that she’s feeling some temptation and wants to get the responsibility off herself… this is going to be fun and easy.”

Trust me on this one.

Their words are usually hollow and meaningless… watch their BEHAVIOUR…

***Now, DON’T take this to mean that if a woman says, “STOP” when you’re touching her that she wants you to rape her… this kind of dumb-ass thinking will result in jail time and your getting a large new boyfriend named Otis.***

Just realize that a “No” said with longing in her eyes or passion in her kiss usually means, “Get me more turned on by kissing my neck, caressing me, smelling me,  and saying romantic and sexy things.”

I’ve realized that women shift gears all the time and next time you talk to her she might be in a completely different mood, etc. so if you really want her, don’t give up the first time something weird happens.

How To Meet Women

OK, now let’s talk about the nuts and bolts of how to meet women.

Guys are constantly trying to find new ‘angles’ and ‘lines’ so that it can ‘appear natural’ when they talk to a woman. I mean, hell... most women’s fantasy is to meet a guy in a charming place and have this whole unplanned romantic thing happen right out of a movie (irony: unplanned and right out of a movie).

I really think that instead of trying to mask a pick-up, just make it damn good. If you can just be in the ‘more interesting’ category, you’ll get her attention, which is a major step. Then you can lean into the cocky and funny routine and take it from there.

Don’t try to hide the fact that you’re picking a woman up — be great at it, then get into cocky and funny (and reframe as them picking you up! Ha).

Meeting Women At Dance Lessons

Another good place to meet tons of single women is at dance lessons. I know, I know…sounds kind of fruity. But dance classes are LOADED with single women who LOVE GUYS WHO CAN DANCE. Heck, they even love guys who want to LEARN to dance.

Here’s the breakdown:

Most rudimentary dance lessons are set up in the same format. You have limited dance time with numerous partners. This is perfect.

Here are a few ideas for being cocky/funny on the ballroom dance floor...

“Hi, I’ll be your host for the next three minutes. If you can dance well, have a nice personality, and don’t step on my feet more than forty-seven times, I’ll let you be my

friend.”

“OK, impress me.”

“I just want you to know, I don’t think any less of you just because you’re so bad at ballroom dancing that you need lessons.”...

just take out a piece of paper and spend 5 minutes on this one. You’ll be set for life.

The First Date Is NOT An Interview

I have had so many readers write and ask me, “How should I act on the first date? What should we talk about? How do you keep the conversation interesting?”, that I

felt I should address these points a bit further.

The first thing to remember when you’re meeting up with a girl for ‘a date’ is that it’s NOT an INTERVIEW. You’re not applying for a job (and neither is she), so don’t act like it.

It’s so funny to me when I sit down in a restaurant and I hear a couple that’s obviously out on their first date... and the guy has no idea what to do. It sounds

something like this:

“So, did you grow up around here?”

“Where did you go to school?”

“Do you have brothers and sisters?”

“What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?”

Painful. Why is it that people tend to act like they’re on job interviews when they go out on dates? It’s such a not-right thing to do. I mean, no wonder women sit around with each other and complain about how hard it is to find an interesting guy in this world.

Here’s a good rule of thumb: ONLY ASK QUESTIONS OR TALK ABOUT COMMON, BORING, PREDICTABLE TOPICS LIKE SCHOOL, WORK AND FAMILY IF YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY RUN OUT OF ALL OTHER OPTIONS.

And why is this? Good question. And I’m glad you asked.

First, let’s talk about WHY most guys allow the conversation to turn to these ultra-boring topics... Most guys approach a first date from the perspective of ‘I don’t want to screw this up’. In other words, they try to play it safe and not do anything or say anything that the girl might not like.

They try to present themselves as ‘nice guys’ who love mom, have a good job, and are stable.

Somehow, guys have gotten the idea that if they act nice, buy dinner, and talk about the same old things that everyone else uses to bore women to tears that they might get lucky and score (or at least get a kiss and a second opportunity to buy dinner). I don’t know where this concept came from, but it’s just not a very effective approach.

WOMEN AREN’T ATTRACTED TO THE SAME OLD SAME OLD, BORING, PREDICTABLE CONVERSATION. Attraction happens when there is energy, spice, humour, mystery... COCKY AND FUNNY... and saucy conversation.

So if you want to create ATTRACTION instead of BOREDOM, you’re going to have to learn a new way. You’re going to have to learn to talk about something else.

The trick to not talking about the ‘usual’ things is to know how to make conversation INTERESTING.

Let me ask you, what are the most INTERESTING topics to humans in general? Right – drama, violence, scandal, and comedy that is painful to one of the parties involved. Here are a few good ideas for conversation that come to mind:

“So what’s with The Osbournes being MTV’s #1 show of all time? I guess people just can’t get enough of dysfunctional family life... they have to watch it on TV too.”

“I’m so bummed that Justin broke up with Britney. They were so damn cute together. I was hoping that they’d have a daughter with fake blonde hair and breast implants at birth.”

“Have you tuned into this ‘Cheaters’ TV show? Don’t you just love it when they come storming into someone’s house and catch the wife in bed with another guy on national TV?”

These topics will light up a conversation like nobody’s business. And they create all kinds of opportunities to be cocky and funny while talking about the misfortunes and

neurotic behaviour of others. The trick is that you must remember you’re not there to impress her, and you’re not on a job interview. The more you act nervous, stilted, and

uncomfortable... like you’re trying to impress her and get her approval... and like you don’t want to say anything that might make her disapprove of you, the less likely you are to trigger that all-important ATTRACTION inside of her.

And here’s a real twist on this theme: If SHE starts asking the ‘normal’ questions about school, job, family, etc. this is a perfect opportunity to bust on her and say, “What, is this a job interview?” or “Can’t you think of something interesting to talk about? Please, spare me the pain of the usual school-job-family conversation. Let’s save that until we’re picking names for our kids.”

Here are a few other good ideas for conversation:

1)  History. Women love to hear stories about the history of places. If you’re in an interesting part of town, tell her the story of how the area came to be named, or why the city was built where it is. And if the story involves a tale of love and/or scandal, all the better.

2)  Anything superficial, classy, and basically meaningless. Try learning a little about fashion, so this way you can make fun of it while acting like you know what you’re talking about. “Didn’t Madonna really screw up the fashion world with this whole over-the-top fake cowboy look thing?”

3)  Comedy Psychological Analysis. Have fun by giving your wild perspective on others. “You know, I’ve been trying to figure out why so many people these days are going postal and shooting everyone. I think it might be all the NSYNC, Britney Spears, and Backstreet Boys on the radio.” This one can be a lot of fun... be creative.

Do you see where I’m going with this? If you want to keep her interest, then you have to be INTERESTING. The old-fashioned act-like-you’re-on-a-job interview rap just doesn’t cut it. Now, for some guys, the ideas that I’ve just talked about will make sense but won’t come naturally. That’s OK. You may have to work on this for awhile, especially if you’ve spent the last 25 or so years doing the wrong thing. Old Proverb: “No matter how far down the wrong road you’ve gone, TURN BACK.”

So remember, attraction isn’t a choice. And attraction doesn’t make logical sense. If you want to create that magical “chemistry”, then you’re going to have to LEARN and PRACTICE it.

Signs That A Woman Is Interested

I’ve read all the books that say, “If a woman tilts her head to the side, licks her lips, fondles her hair, and looks over her shoulder at you, there’s a 67% chance that she’s interested in you.”

Here’s what I’ve found:

The main sign signal that I look for now is, ‘Is she acting friendly to me?’

That’s it. Now, of course some women are more forward than others; but overall, if a woman is acting friendly and keeping up an interesting conversation, you’re usually doing pretty well.

The key is to KEEP GOING AND CONTINUE TO THE NEXT STEP ALWAYS.

I have to stop and explain this point.

Most men don’t realize that THEY NEED TO KEEP ADVANCING.

If your conversation is going well, ask for a phone number.

If you’re out for a walk and the conversation seems to be going well, reach over and kiss her.

If you’re at your house watching a movie and start kissing, take her hand and lead her to your bedroom... get the idea?

Keep advancing.

Women like this and expect it. If they’re not comfortable, they’ll let you know. But don’t worry. Just keep going and advance again at the next opportunity.

Don’t push – advance.

More on this stuff:

Read Chapter 7 of “Body Language” by Julius Fast … about Mike. I’ve read that chapter about 50 times. You may not get it at first, but keep reading it until you do. The more you learn, the more you’ll get it.

Also, read “The Rules” by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider… yea, the one for women. Do that stuff… it works… end all conversations first, etc.

And read “How to Make Love to a Woman” by Michael Morganstern. Good stuff in there too. And learn how to be funny… do whatever you have to do. It’s the magic ingredient to add to your cockiness that sets the mixture ablaze.

Body Language Basics

Many people agree that women are far more sensitive to body language than men are.

I have to say that in my experience, women can detect all kinds of things from body language. Ask a female friend to describe what’s going on with a person by looking at them, and you’ll be surprised at all the information they’ll give you.

So it follows that if women are so in tune with body language, you might as well get some of the basics together so you’re transmitting the right messages.

My opinion is that women prefer men who are confident, bordering on arrogant.

Most women will tell you that arrogant men turn them off, but I’ve found that if you mix humour with a little arrogance, it’s a killer.

So how do you use your body to telegraph confidence?

Well, first of all walk upright, hold your head up, and hold your shoulders back.

Next, SLOW DOWN your movements and make slower, calculated gestures.

Then, make eye contact and keep it when you see women. Don’t look away until they do and kind of squint while raising an eyebrow.

I’ve done a lot of work in this area, and I’ve found that by SLOWING DOWN, I create mystery and intrigue. I literally practice slowing down my walk, my gestures, how fast I turn my head, how fast I talk, and even how fast I blink.

Also, start taking up more space and opening up your physiology. If you’re seated, keep your legs and arms uncrossed. Keep your legs far apart and your shoulders

back. Don’t lean forward; lean back.

This might sound a little far out to some people, but these LITTLE details make all the difference when dealing with a woman.

It’s amazing how fast most women can detect insecurity, neediness, and low self-esteem.

I personally believe that when a man is self-confident (or more specifically, a woman BELIEVES that he is), women are attracted to him on an UNCONSCIOUS level. What I mean is that I think this behaviour activates a part of a woman’s brain that can’t help but feel an attraction.

If you’d like a model of confidence, watch some James Bond movies. You’ll notice that James almost never smiles, and I can’t remember when I’ve ever seen him laugh.

But James is the sex symbol of masculine adventure.

Does he do the things that I mentioned above? Of course. That’s where I learned a lot of them. Ha!

Another way to demonstrate and project confidence is to PAUSE while you’re talking. Pausing on purpose creates suspense and tension.

It’s great. If you combine pauses with serious looks, you will create an air of power and confidence.

For example, you might say, “Well, if I were you, I’d just tell her what you think” like so... “Well... (pause) if I were you... (pause and look into eyes with serious look) I’d just tell her what you think.”

This creates what’s known as a ‘subtext’ to the communication. On the surface you’re talking about the normal conversation. But underneath, you’re communicating suspense, confidence, and mystery.

If you learn how to mix a seductive voice tone and body language with regular conversation, you’ll find that you can get women turned on talking about random things like the weather.

Pause often. It will do wonders for your communication style.

Meeting Women Online

America Online is the greatest gift to lazy men who want to meet women that has ever been created.

Think of it!

An environment where you get to lead with your personality and not your looks... a place where there is a level playing field... a place where you can think about what you want to say before saying it... a place where you can actually practice everything in slow motion!

Ahhh.

Step 1: Get an AOL account.

Step 2: Go to www.amihotornot.com and start placing different pictures online to see which one gets the highest ratings. Take the one or ones that get the best ratings and use them online (I personally tried several pictures. The worst picture got me an overall rating of 3; the best got me an overall rating of over 8. Think about that! Same guy, but just a different picture! And the one that women liked the best wasn’t the one that I would have guessed. Go figure.

Step 3: Set up a free photo-personal on AOL, plus check out other online personal sites. (Make sure you test pictures to get a good one!)

Step 4: Learn how to search the member directory on AOL and start some conversations.

Step 5: Go to some chat rooms and just WATCH the conversations to learn how to communicate online.

Step 6: Learn to type fast. Big advantage online.

Step 7: Use the communication skills that I’m teaching you to make women laugh online. Humour is key.

Step 8: Get a woman on the phone as soon as you possibly can. Don’t become just another online pal. The longer you wait, the lower your chances will be to meet

her.

Step 9: Get MORE THAN ONE picture! And ask if they still look like the pictures that they sent. I have horror stories that you don’t even want to hear. Take my advice and ASK FOR DETAILS!

Step 10: Some women are very nervous about meeting people from the Internet. Some aren’t.  I like to make jokes about it and turn it around. I say things like, “Well, you seem really nice. I’d invite you to call me, but I’m afraid that you might be one of these weirdoes... or some guy pretending to be a woman...” Ha ha ha! Get out there and practice this stuff. Learning the online world takes awhile, but it’s worth it if you like to meet women anytime you feel like it.