Get A Few Good Props

Props are things that give a woman something to talk about.

A big stuffed animal in your house might be a prop.

Your dog might be a prop.

A picture of you and your mom might be a prop.

Colouring books and crayons are a great prop that a friend of mine has used for years.

The idea here is to have things in your house that are unusual, interesting, and fascinating to play with, talk about, watch, whatever.

Books and magazines about interesting topics make great props. I have a big book called Sexual Secrets by Nik Douglas and Penny Slinger on my bookshelf. I didn’t realize that it was such an attention magnet, but whenever anyone male or female sees my bookshelf, they instantly go for that book. It’s big, bold, and provocative. Keep a few good books like this one around for discussion. The book that I mentioned earlier about Palmistry is a GREAT prop. It’s a tiny book about three. Just leave it on your coffee table so that a inches square woman can find it on her own, which leads to the discussion, the palmistry, the touching, etc.

Magic is another great prop. You can learn a few easy coin magic tricks in an afternoon. These work great as conversation starters, for fun with waitresses, etc. Magic is just an all around winner in the props department.

If you play a musical instrument, make sure it’s out and about and ready for playing. Unless, of course, you play the accordion or tuba.

Take a minute and think about what kinds of things the women you are interested in would find fascinating, interesting, and irresistible. Then scatter them around your house.

How Men Usually Find Women

I’ve read several books on mating and courtship behaviour among different species of animals (including humans!). The funny thing is that humans do just about

the same things as most other animals with slight variations.

Here are the main ways male animals (humans included) find females:

Some human equivalents are:

The point is that there’s nothing new under the sun. If you want to meet women, you have to:

It’s all the same game. Most men who are failures with women aren’t willing to do what it takes to be successful. That’s the bottom line. I’m going to give you the secret ingredients that attract women and invite you to combine some of them with your personality in order to attract the kind of women you’re interested in. The question is, “Are you willing to do the work that it will take to be successful?”

Learn To Cook A Few Good Meals

Cooking has all kinds of major advantages.

It costs less money, you get to eat something you like, it often takes less time, you don’t have to try to get a woman to come back to your house (she’s already there), it’s romantic, it shows that you have taste... and the list just goes on.

Get yourself an unusual apron (I have a cow print one) and get yourself a cookbook or two (or find a few good recipes on the Internet).

Things like pasta are always easy, and they go well with wine and candles... just put her on the couch with a glass of wine and a funny ‘chick flick’... or have her keep you company on a stool in the kitchen.

Oh, and get a few chocolate covered strawberries for  (Bonus if you make them dessert... perfect feed material.yourself... even if they don’t turn out perfect, you get MAJOR points.)

The rap goes like this: “Hey, I’ve got a great idea. I’ve been dying to cook this great pasta dish that I love. Why don’t you come over here, and I’ll make you

dinner...”

It’s a no-brainer, even for women who you’ve just met.

Signs That A Woman Is Interested

I’ve read all the books that say, “If a woman tilts her head to the side, licks her lips, fondles her hair, and looks over her shoulder at you, there’s a 67% chance that she’s interested in you.”

Here’s what I’ve found:

The main sign signal that I look for now is, ‘Is she acting friendly to me?’

That’s it. Now, of course some women are more forward than others; but overall, if a woman is acting friendly and keeping up an interesting conversation, you’re usually doing pretty well.

The key is to KEEP GOING AND CONTINUE TO THE NEXT STEP ALWAYS.

I have to stop and explain this point.

Most men don’t realize that THEY NEED TO KEEP ADVANCING.

If your conversation is going well, ask for a phone number.

If you’re out for a walk and the conversation seems to be going well, reach over and kiss her.

If you’re at your house watching a movie and start kissing, take her hand and lead her to your bedroom... get the idea?

Keep advancing.

Women like this and expect it. If they’re not comfortable, they’ll let you know. But don’t worry. Just keep going and advance again at the next opportunity.

Don’t push – advance.

More on this stuff:

Read Chapter 7 of “Body Language” by Julius Fast … about Mike. I’ve read that chapter about 50 times. You may not get it at first, but keep reading it until you do. The more you learn, the more you’ll get it.

Also, read “The Rules” by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider… yea, the one for women. Do that stuff… it works… end all conversations first, etc.

And read “How to Make Love to a Woman” by Michael Morganstern. Good stuff in there too. And learn how to be funny… do whatever you have to do. It’s the magic ingredient to add to your cockiness that sets the mixture ablaze.

Body Language Basics

Many people agree that women are far more sensitive to body language than men are.

I have to say that in my experience, women can detect all kinds of things from body language. Ask a female friend to describe what’s going on with a person by looking at them, and you’ll be surprised at all the information they’ll give you.

So it follows that if women are so in tune with body language, you might as well get some of the basics together so you’re transmitting the right messages.

My opinion is that women prefer men who are confident, bordering on arrogant.

Most women will tell you that arrogant men turn them off, but I’ve found that if you mix humour with a little arrogance, it’s a killer.

So how do you use your body to telegraph confidence?

Well, first of all walk upright, hold your head up, and hold your shoulders back.

Next, SLOW DOWN your movements and make slower, calculated gestures.

Then, make eye contact and keep it when you see women. Don’t look away until they do and kind of squint while raising an eyebrow.

I’ve done a lot of work in this area, and I’ve found that by SLOWING DOWN, I create mystery and intrigue. I literally practice slowing down my walk, my gestures, how fast I turn my head, how fast I talk, and even how fast I blink.

Also, start taking up more space and opening up your physiology. If you’re seated, keep your legs and arms uncrossed. Keep your legs far apart and your shoulders

back. Don’t lean forward; lean back.

This might sound a little far out to some people, but these LITTLE details make all the difference when dealing with a woman.

It’s amazing how fast most women can detect insecurity, neediness, and low self-esteem.

I personally believe that when a man is self-confident (or more specifically, a woman BELIEVES that he is), women are attracted to him on an UNCONSCIOUS level. What I mean is that I think this behaviour activates a part of a woman’s brain that can’t help but feel an attraction.

If you’d like a model of confidence, watch some James Bond movies. You’ll notice that James almost never smiles, and I can’t remember when I’ve ever seen him laugh.

But James is the sex symbol of masculine adventure.

Does he do the things that I mentioned above? Of course. That’s where I learned a lot of them. Ha!

Another way to demonstrate and project confidence is to PAUSE while you’re talking. Pausing on purpose creates suspense and tension.

It’s great. If you combine pauses with serious looks, you will create an air of power and confidence.

For example, you might say, “Well, if I were you, I’d just tell her what you think” like so... “Well... (pause) if I were you... (pause and look into eyes with serious look) I’d just tell her what you think.”

This creates what’s known as a ‘subtext’ to the communication. On the surface you’re talking about the normal conversation. But underneath, you’re communicating suspense, confidence, and mystery.

If you learn how to mix a seductive voice tone and body language with regular conversation, you’ll find that you can get women turned on talking about random things like the weather.

Pause often. It will do wonders for your communication style.

On Predictability

Don’t be predictable. Do the unexpected when they LEAST expect it.

But don’t overdo it by acting extreme too often. If you do the unexpected too much, it will come off as unstable, etc.

People in general, including women, are attracted to the novel... the unusual... the different.

Predictability is the enemy of interesting.

If you always act predictable, then by DEFINITION you’re not interesting.

So keep doing things that are interesting and unexpected.

If she wants a kiss, say, “No.” But kiss her later when YOU feel like it. If she sits on your lap, push her off. But give her a hug later when YOU feel like it.

The Dark Side: Don’t do things that are too far out in order to be unpredictable. I said be unpredictable, not UNSTABLE. Don’t get too wild, or you’ll come across as being loopy.

Another facet of this mindset: Don’t be too friendly too early.

This includes touching and smiling. If you do either too much, you’ll mess it up for yourself.

If you act too interested too early, you’ll come across as needy. By leaning back and keeping a calm, indifferent attitude you’ll be more interesting.

I like to take this idea to its extreme by teasing and making a woman beg me for things that she wants and commit to things during times when it’s unfair (in a fun way, of course).

For instance, if she wants a kiss, tell her that you’ll only give her one if she rubs your back, etc. Use your imagination here. The idea is to do things that are unexpected and different.

To summarize, if you become too predictable, you will become uninteresting to a woman. We humans are naturally drawn to things that we cannot completely

figure out. So keep some things a mystery. Do some things that don’t make sense. Don’t be predictable.

How Women Test Men And Why

In my opinion, most women, especially the ‘hotties’, have gone through a learning curve here in our western culture that has on average given them a sort of ‘predictable psychological makeup’. Now, there are differences between these women… some are smart, some are not… some are tall, some are short… some are cerebral, some are physical… etc. etc. etc… but there are things that most of them have in common. I’ve made a study of these things… because this is what interests me.

At some point in their lives, hotties began to be treated differently because they were attractive. I mentioned the social psychology concept earlier called ‘The Halo Effect’. Simply stated, attractive people are assumed to be smarter, more honest, more trustworthy, etc. than others. The fact that people do whatever the hottie wants begins to blur their sense of reality and makes them believe that they can have whatever they want whenever they want it… AND THAT’S JUST THE WAY LIFE IS. (This applies in general.)

You’ll notice that many super-hotties will throw tantrums if they don’t like what’s going on or aren’t getting their way… this is a sure sign that they are not living in the same reality as most people… when they don’t get what they want, they get upset because this has worked since they were little…

Now, on a subconscious level, I’ve noticed that most hot women realize that they are being ridiculous when they act like bitches, throw tantrums, etc. but it doesn’t really matter because it still WORKS for them when they want what they want… are you with me?

Underneath all of this behaviour, they are still FEMALE and they are looking for what other females are also looking for…

What are women looking for?

Well, for the record, I have no idea. After 30 years of studying people, Freud said that there was one question that he didn’t have the answer to… “What do women want?” Nice.

BUT, here’s my take on it: First and foremost, they want a man who is in CONTROL (of the situation, himself, his emotions, other people, her… control of the entire

reality that they share).

Let me ask you, if you were a woman who wanted to test a man to see if he will stay in control, how would you do it? Would you ask the man, “If I get out of hand, will you spank me and put me in my place?”

NO WAY!!!

So they test us by CHALLENGING us to see if we’ll stay in control. The reason I do all of this “Never give a woman a direct answer… unless it’s NO… Never give a woman exactly what she wants…” etc. is, ironically, to give her what she REALLY wants… a man who’s in control.

Women want a challenge. Think romance novel themes… if you don’t know what I’m talking about, sit down for a week and read “Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women” by Jayne Krentz… “How to Succeed With Women By Being A Jerk” by F.J. Shark… “Endless Rapture” by Helen Hazen… and “Bad Boys” by Margie Palatini… and think about it.

Most of the time, I’m enjoying myself, talking about whatever comes up, making jokes, and generally behaving like a normal person.

But, like anything else, if these techniques are used too much, they become worthless… so they must be used with precision and at the right moments.

What’s interesting is that because I usually (but not always) do these teasing and seemingly controlling things with a bit of a dry humour spin, I believe that the woman who I’m with has an internal response like, “Wow, this guy is cocky, but I can’t tell if he’s serious or not… and I want to find out… but either way, he’s funny and he’s staying interested in me and not being flagrantly abusive… so he must be interested at SOME level…”

The key is to WATCH FOR THE TESTS and be ready when they come.

Most guys screw up when a woman acts bratty… or when a woman gets upset, they say, “Oh, I’m sorry” and mess it up. Or they act nervous, etc. You have to stay in control… If a woman starts getting angry, instead of getting nervous say, “Oh, poor baby is throwing a tantrum… So what. You’ve been doing the same thing since you were 2, and you didn’t get your way.”

SPANK!

Another realization I’ve had is that most women are totally intrigued by men who seem uninterested and  crass… it’s almost like they say to themselves, “Wow, this guy seems kind of cocky… and I can’t believe that he’s not interested in having sex with me like all the other dumb pussies that I meet… He’s funny and smart… I

wonder if I can get him interested in me… and when I do, I’ll just dump him like the other losers… but this might be fun…”

Get it?

But if you are going to act this way, you have to keep it up until the end… and I mean to the end.

I’m going to address the ‘treating women well’ issue again.

I treat women very well… they always tell me that they’ve never met a man who treats them so well, etc.

How can this be when I seem like such a ball buster?

Well, it’s simple really… I do nice things for them ON MY OWN TERMS. I will surprise them with a thoughtful e-mail or a card… or I might give them a nice massage… I open doors and walk on the outside of the curb… But part of most women’s romantic fantasy (in my opinion) is the man taking control of the situation and doing things on HIS terms. Try it for yourself… next time you’re going to meet a woman, tell her what to wear… choose the food and tell her to trust you… if she asks for a kiss, say, “No”… but kiss her later when YOU feel like it… if you know that she likes chocolate, and she asks for some… don’t give it to her… but surprise her with some next time you see her… get it?

Here are a couple of rules of thumb that I use:

Hot women can have anything they want. What they want is a challenge… something that keeps their interest. If a woman can have anything she wants anytime she wants it, then WHY THE HELL DO GUYS THINK THAT THEY’RE GOING TO BE INTERESTING BY DOING THE SAME THING THAT EVERY OTHER GUY HAS DONE? Duh.

Always send mixed signals. Tell her I want to be friends and kiss her. Tell her what she just did was unacceptable and then go kiss her. Spank her if she does something nice. Also, respond differently to the same thing. For example, one time if she comes over and sits on my lap, I kiss her. Another time I push her off… get it? Never be predictable… NEVER.

For the record, when I say, “always” and “never”, I don’t really mean “ALWAYS 100% WITHOUT EXCEPTION EVER.” I mean that you should do these as much as you possibly can, because you really can’t overdo any of them as long as you stay cocky and funny while you’re doing them.

The test is always, “Is she laughing, smiling, having fun most of the time?” If so, you can’t overdo these four rules.

Getting Phone Numbers And E-mail Addresses

I’ve personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I’ve found that e-mail addresses are far better.

Let me explain.

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago. If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute. I found out later,

after working like a mad scientist on this skill, that numbers don’t equal success.

You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But based on the universal feedback that I get from men and my personal experience, women act differently on the phone than they do in person.

When you call a woman for the first time, she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude.

I’ve found that getting an e-mail address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on.

It’s almost like women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an e-mail to them.

The other benefit of e-mail is that it can be written and answered anytime.

If you call, you have to actually reach them.

But an e-mail can be answered anytime.

And I’ve found that e-mails are answered far more often than voicemail messages.

Here’s the how-to:

After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say something like, “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.” They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging. Then, just as I’m turning to walk away… and we kind of disconnect… I turn back and say, “Hey, do you have e-

mail?”

If they say ‘yes’, I take out a pen and paper and have them write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a ‘yes’ to get it from them as well.

And they’ve ALL gone along with it so far.) Then I say, “Write your number down there too.” I won’t go into all of it, but this move is a powerhouse. When you ask for e-mail, it’s very low risk for them… so they think, “Fine, I’ll do that”… and then when they’re already writing, I get the phone number too… which is more natural.

If they say no, then I bust on them and say, “Well, do you have electricity?” Then I say, “Well, OK then… I like e-mail better, but I’ll take your regular phone number… it’s so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days.”

I hope you get what just happened… OK, then, as they’re writing I say, “Is this a number that you actually answer?” If not, then I say, “Look, write your real number down… it’s going to be OK… I’ll only call you nine times a day.” They laugh and give me their real number.

Just realize that all you have to do is ask.

Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. Many guys say, “But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or e-mail?” I’ve never had a woman ask me. If you ask and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesn’t give it to you, then she also knew why you asked. Just assume that this is the case.

If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of e-mails and phone numbers.

Note: Carry a pen with you at all times.

Meeting Women Online

America Online is the greatest gift to lazy men who want to meet women that has ever been created.

Think of it!

An environment where you get to lead with your personality and not your looks... a place where there is a level playing field... a place where you can think about what you want to say before saying it... a place where you can actually practice everything in slow motion!

Ahhh.

Step 1: Get an AOL account.

Step 2: Go to www.amihotornot.com and start placing different pictures online to see which one gets the highest ratings. Take the one or ones that get the best ratings and use them online (I personally tried several pictures. The worst picture got me an overall rating of 3; the best got me an overall rating of over 8. Think about that! Same guy, but just a different picture! And the one that women liked the best wasn’t the one that I would have guessed. Go figure.

Step 3: Set up a free photo-personal on AOL, plus check out other online personal sites. (Make sure you test pictures to get a good one!)

Step 4: Learn how to search the member directory on AOL and start some conversations.

Step 5: Go to some chat rooms and just WATCH the conversations to learn how to communicate online.

Step 6: Learn to type fast. Big advantage online.

Step 7: Use the communication skills that I’m teaching you to make women laugh online. Humour is key.

Step 8: Get a woman on the phone as soon as you possibly can. Don’t become just another online pal. The longer you wait, the lower your chances will be to meet

her.

Step 9: Get MORE THAN ONE picture! And ask if they still look like the pictures that they sent. I have horror stories that you don’t even want to hear. Take my advice and ASK FOR DETAILS!

Step 10: Some women are very nervous about meeting people from the Internet. Some aren’t.  I like to make jokes about it and turn it around. I say things like, “Well, you seem really nice. I’d invite you to call me, but I’m afraid that you might be one of these weirdoes... or some guy pretending to be a woman...” Ha ha ha! Get out there and practice this stuff. Learning the online world takes awhile, but it’s worth it if you like to meet women anytime you feel like it.