How To Answer Any Question That You Don’t Want To Answer

Women have a way with questions.

They seem to always ask questions that men don’t want to answer.

Questions like:

“Are you seeing anyone else right now?”

“How do you feel about marriage?”

“Do you want kids?”

“How do you feel about me?”

“Do I look fat in these pants?”

Know what I’m talking about?

Well, it took me awhile, but I finally figured out how to deal with tough questions: Evasive Action.

Here’s how it works. If she asks you a tough question, don’t miss a beat – respond with the answer she wants to hear. Then throw in a slapstick comedy line.

For instance:

Say she asks: “Are you seeing other women?”

You answer:  “No... other men.”

Get it?

Here’s another one:

She asks: “Do you love me?”

You answer: “Of course... as a friend.”

And another:

She asks: “Where were you last night? I called.”

You answer: “I was home thinking about you... but since you didn’t call early enough, I went out and hired ten strippers.”

At first, I figured that this tactic wouldn’t work. But then I tried using it a few times, and behold, it worked in almost every situation.

And if she pushes and asks again: “Cummon, seriously...”

You say: “No, seriously. I was home thinking about you... OK, OK, you got me. I really went out with ten other women. Are you happy? What, are you feeling insecure?”

If you keep it up, they’ll give up.

Make sure you don’t act busted or nervous and it will work for you, too. Remember, women can take hints very well, and if they think that there’s an answer that they don’t want to hear, they’ll give up and stop asking.

On Testing

The way I see it, women are constantly testing men. They do it by acting bratty, making demands, complaining, commanding, being emotional, etc.

Know what I’m talking about?

Here’s what I do:

When a woman tries to test me – for instance, if she says, “I don’t like that heavy metal that you were listening to” – I turn it up a notch and send it back to her – I might also say, “Well, then you might want to not get in my car anymore, because it’s all I’m going to play now that you’re whining about it.” (Said in a half serious tone so she can’t tell if I’m kidding)

This sends the message that if she tries to act controlling, I’m just going to turn whatever she’s being a pain about up one notch and give it to her again. Women

get the message loud and clear when you act this way.

It may be hard to believe, but I’ve heard MANY women say things like, “I HATE IT when a man does what I tell him to do”, or “I just walk all over him, and it’s so annoying to me.”

Some women actually have standard tests that they give to new guys to see if the guy will do what they tell him to do. I’ve now learned NEVER to accept demanding or controlling behaviour. I usually just laugh and say, “Cute.” By laughing and saying, “Cute”, I short-circuit their testing mechanism and let them know that I’m going to be more of a challenge than they thought.

On Looks and Body Language

Most of the men I talk to who want to learn how to be successful with women ask me things like, “What’s a good line?” or “What do you say when they say this?”

For some reason, most people forget that language is a SECONDARY way of communicating. It’s to be used when there’s no faster way.

When two people are communicating face-to-face, most of the communication is happening through body language and voice tone, while very little through the

actual words.

I’ve seen studies that show that as little as 7% of what you communicate is done verbally, while your body language and voice tone make up the other 93%.

So which do you think is more powerful when dealing with women?

Right, right... your body language and voice tone.

When You Meet

When they arrive at your place, say ‘hi’ and invite them in for a minute while you get your coat or shoes. Then walk out and seem like YOU’RE IN A HURRY TO

LEAVE. Most guys would try to get them to stay and get

cozy with them. You want them to think that you’re not

overly interested and that you want some coffee.

Total indifference.

At coffee, just sit and be the funny and cocky self, make jokes, and in general lean back and make ‘friends’.

I used to analyze handwriting, do palmistry, do hand massages, and touch women when I first meet them. Not anymore (I save these things for later).

Also, I used to be more ‘touchy feely’ with women at the very beginning. As I mentioned, I’d massage their hands and touch them a lot, etc. leading to kissing, etc.

early on.

I’ve now learned that if I lean back and almost don’t touch them at all on purpose, it creates this tension so that when I do actually touch them, they respond powerfully. In communication they call this ‘Building Response Potential’.

Sometimes I’ll massage hands or touch, but I don’t overdo it.

I’m just sitting there ACTING LIKE WE’RE BEST FRIENDS. When you act like they’re a best friend, they will rapidly get comfortable with you. I make fun of people, whatever. I just totally lean back and relax. I’m cool, relaxed, and constantly making comments about how we’re going to be friends, etc.

I’ve learned never to compliment a hot woman on her looks, period. I still mess up and forget, and I’m always reminded why I don’t do it. I try to find one thing that she’s insecure about and talk to her about it like ‘a friend’… not overly critical, but not saying, ‘No, you shouldn’t be insecure’… I just keep bringing it up and even make jokes about it.

Self-Image, Self-Talk, And Other Self Stuff

The way I see it, underpinning all of these outer details and techniques is your self-image, confidence, personality, and all of that other intangible stuff that takes a bit to get under control. So let me address how I got my personal self-image stuff together before I talk about what I do specifically. (By the way, this is the most important part of this book. All of my success has flowed from my attitude and confidence – not the other way around. So if you read nothing else, read this part.)

The Attitude

When I first started out learning how to meet women, I remember that I had a feeling inside like, “I’m afraid to just walk up to a strange woman and start talking.”

I thought of all kinds of things that could go wrong.

“What if she has a boyfriend nearby who easily gets jealous and  wants to beat me up?”

“What if she says something that puts me down and makes me feel bad?”

“What if she says something to someone else about me being a loser because I tried to talk to her?”

All of these different ideas combined inside of me to give me a general fear of meeting women.

I’ve since learned that none of my worst fears would come true when meeting a new woman. I’ve met hundreds and hundreds of women over the last few years – and none (NONE!) have reacted or caused anything to happen that I couldn’t handle in the moment.

In the process I realized something very important:

No tactic works on every woman. Some women are not interested in meeting someone right now.

Some women are lesbians and have no interest in men.

Some women are happily married or in a relationship and don’t want to meet someone new right now.

Some women are angry.

Some are cold.

My guess is that in a random group of 100 women, only about 30 of them might be open to meeting someone new right now (in a romantic sense).

What this means is that 70 AREN’T interested in meeting someone new.

And of the 30 who are interested in meeting someone new, maybe only 15 are nice, friendly, happy people. Do you see where I’m going?

If you want to be successful at meeting women, you have to understand that many of the women you talk to aren’t interested. Most people take things like this PERSONALLY. Instead of just moving on to the next woman, they get all uptight and feel bad about it. I’ve now learned a better way.

I also learned something else that helped me dramatically.

I learned that women are used to being approached, flirted with, and picked up on in general by men. Even women who are what you might call ‘average’ are approached by men on a pretty regular basis. So when you’re about to approach a woman, keep in mind that it’s not like you’re going to try something that she’s never heard of before and shock her. You may not be totally comfortable yet just walking up to any woman, but she’ll be relatively OK with it.

And remember, if she’s not interested, it’s most likely that she’s not interested in anyone right now. Of course it’s true that she might not be interested in your ‘type’ or

you may have acted in a way that she didn’t like, but the fact is that no matter what happens, you’ll find that it’s no big deal.

Just move on.

When I first started my journey, I realized that some of the greatest memories that my friends and I have are when something bad happened to one of us. Looking back, we usually laugh about these things and make fun of each other and ourselves.

So I thought about it, and I realized that getting rejected really harshly by a woman would actually be a funny thing. I imagined my best friend and I saying, “Hey, remember that time when I walked up to that girl in the mall and said “Hi”, but she told me that she doesn’t date men who look like Pee Wee Herman? Ha ha ha ha...”

Think of it this way: If you get shut down really hard, just tell a couple of friends. They may not let you live it down, but at least you can laugh about it! (And if you have friends that won’t help you laugh about it, then you need some new ones.)

Another part of the attitude equation that I realized is that different women respond to different looks, personalities, etc. One woman might only like men who dress in suits and ties, while another might only like women who dress like bad boy rockers. Whatever style you develop, DON’T CHANGE IT JUST BECAUSE SOME

WOMEN DON’T LIKE IT.

The price of big success is having some people dislike you. So once you find a style that works for you, stick with it, and only change it because YOU choose to do so!