Thursday, 29 January 2009
Why You Should Date Online
Many people make the mistake of basing everything on one date. They feel devastated if the date does not work out, when really you should just try to have fun and enjoy yourself, whether you get a friendship or relationship out of the date or not.
Clothes Another of the most important date tips involves what to wear. Although it may seem a bit clich, you should really care about what you dress in for the date, since first impressions mean a lot and so you want to come across as clean and well groomed. If you are a woman you should dress nicely but avoid wearing anything too tight or revealing, and if you are a man you want to dress up nicely as well but without overdoing it.
Remember Safety You should make arrangements to meet your date in a relaxed and busier location, as you should never meet someone for the first time anywhere to quiet or secluded, simply for safety reasons. Date tips can come in very handy, especially if you are particularly nervous or anxious about going on a date. Just remember that the person you are meeting for the date is in the exact same situation you are and so you should really not feel afraid. Even if you do not find that special someone this time, you may make a great friend and so try to make the most out of each and every date you go on.
Sunday, 25 January 2009
2 Remarkable Seduction Techniques to Win Affection
Frankly, there is nothing more fun and more intriguing than the game of seduction. This is the perfect opportunity for you to relax, unwind and enjoy yourself. Contrary to popular belief, seduction techniques do not necessarily have to be complicated and they certainly do not have to be taken too seriously.
In fact, many of the successful seducers I know do not really stretch themselves to the limit in order to achieve their goals.
While fine dining restaurants, a gazillion flowers or a show-stopping outfit can do wonders, not everyone can afford to use seduction techniques of that grandeur. Not everyone is born with a silver spoon in their mouth.
But there is certainly something to be learned from these grand displays of affection, as you will also understand in the next few seconds.
Dominant or Submissive?
Some situations call for predator or prey seduction techniques. If you prefer to do the chasing, then you should be on the lookout for someone who isn't a fellow dominant. This way, you can avoid that initial clash of personalities and seducing your target will go smoothly.
Once you find a person who catches your eye and fits the description opposite of your own, then you can go right ahead and apply your charms and seduction techniques without problems.
Make Your Way with Romance.
Romance is not merely associated with men, just as it is not merely exclusive to people of noble blood. Instead of taking your girl out to eat at an expensive restaurant, consider the following first: Fine dining restaurants might seem exciting and romantic; but in reality, they are too stiff and stereotypical.
Besides, romance is not in the environment you're in, but in the experience you're having with your partner. The same goes for flowers. A single rose or tulip actually says more than a dozen stereotypical flowers.
Seduction techniques work best if you choose to enhance what you already have. This is the moment when your personality can really shine and attract others. Remember that finding the right person to seduce is just as important as the act itself. And the best thing about all of this is that you do not have to break the bank to be successful.
Wednesday, 21 January 2009
Ban On Off-Beach Bathing Suits
The Caribbean island of Grenada says it recently began enforcing an indecent exposure law banning bathing suits away from the beach, as well as saggy pants that reveal the underwear.
Police commissioner James Clarkson says violators are usually just ordered to cover up. But the law allows for a $270 fine or six months in jail.
At least a few locals are contesting fines.
Clarkson said Friday that cruise ships usually inform passengers of proper non-beach attire, but "from time to time, there is the one or two who take their chances."
He said a few months ago police ordered several tourists wearing swimwear at a fort to return to their cruise ship and put on some clothes.
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Saturday, 17 January 2009
When the Rules Change
My Wife and I have been married for almost 8 years. We have 2 beautiful boys and a girl (7, 4 and 5 y/o.) Lately it has been totally imp ossible to get her to have "alone time" with me. I have tried talking to her, flirting with her and just doing special romantic things for her but every night ends with the same results: she either watches "women movies" until I am asleep, she is on the phone with her friends, or she just says she is to tired and turns her back to me and goes to sleep. I am starting to think there is someone else that is getting her affection!!
Three years ago I caught her e-mailing and even talking to a man more than 20 years older than her, after confronting her about it and telling her if she isn't happy with our relationship I didn't want to hold her back. She convinced me it was just a cry for help and wanted more help with household duties and with the kids which I have done, to the point that she brags to her co-workers about how great of a husband she has! If I am so good then why can't she bring herself to spend some intimate time with me? If it wasn't for our son's I'm afraid I would have already given up, but I love her with all my heart and causes me so much pain not to be close with her!
Hey!
Some cry for help!
First, I'm sorry you're in this situation. It's extremely difficult when the rules change. Ultimately, your wife has no particular motivation to change things. It's something like the joke about the guy on his wedding day that is missing only to turn up an hour later with his friends asking what happened. He said, "I just got the best blowjob of my life from my fianc�! This marriage is going to be incredible!" Meanwhile, his fiancé is finally found by her friends and when asked where she was, she said, "It was incredible - I just gave the last blowjob of my life!"
I know this isn't a laughing matter, but the point is the same.
Frankly, I think there is a high likelihood that she's seeing someone else which is particularly tragic considering your children. If this is so, they are ultimately going to suffer right along with you, but without the emotional tools to deal with things.
As you've said, you've been the "model husband" all in an attempt to not only make your wife happy, but to recreate the intimacy you need - all to no avail. I think these indirect innuendos should come to an end. You need to confront her about this, face to face, husband to wife.
Here's the reality: she has responsibilities to you and your marriage. Just because she doesn't feel like it isn't good enough. She's also obviously secure in the fact that she doesn't have to give a shit! If she did, she'd never be taking this attitude.
If there's an emotional issue, she needs to get it handled by speaking to a counselor. If there's another person in the mix, it needs to be dealt with by you both - if not for you and your marriage - for your children. Ultimately, this will likely break up your family. If there's a physical problem she needs to see a doctor.
Here's what you should do:
Sit her down when the kids aren't around and say, point-blank that she's not living up to the expectations you had when you married her. Don't mince words here. Consider this: if you were out getting sex from someone else, it would be "cheating" against your promises to her, wouldn't it? So, why are the implied promises of being a good sex partner for you not "cheating" even if she's not seeing someone else?
Answer: they are the same.
Consider this too: our form of marriage is hundreds of years old and the basis for it began when women were properly of westernized men. There was no ability to "have a headache" that lasted for years. The entire community would rally behind the husband because he'd have never entered into the marriage if sex wasn't part of the bargain. Why should that be any different now?
Likewise, she needs to understand that you expect her to get this solved and you'll even help if need be, but if she doesn't, that becomes your ticket to see your sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Meeting your sexual needs is part of the marital agreement whether it's contained within the vows or not. If she can only do that by giving you the freedom to see it outside of the marriage, then you can accept that option if she demands it.
Frankly, I hope you get what you want and need from this marriage. It's the requirement of the family's adults to work this out however it'll best suit the needs of the kids. After all, they didn't ask to be born into this. You and she made that decision for them.
Wednesday, 14 January 2009
How to Date a Coworker
TESTING THE WATERS
Before making a move, it's a good idea to suss out whether your work crush has the hots for you too. Some tip-offs are "if he starts hanging around your work space a lot or asks you to grab lunch or after-work drinks," says Stephanie Losee, coauthor of "Office Mate." You can do your own digging by jokingly saying, "Everyone thinks we're seeing each other, ha-ha. Crazy, right?" If he casts a wide grin or seems into the idea, the coast is clear to start flirting and see what happens.
AVOID GETTING BUSTED
Once you've gotten together (we know you'll get this thing moving), keep that info on the DL. "If it turns out to be a two-week fling, nobody needs to know about it," says Helaine Olen, coauthor of "Office Mate." And monitor how often you bring him up. Olen says coworkers often intuit a liaison when one person mentions the other too frequently - for example, "Here's that report... John helped with the graphics" or "Where'd you go for lunch? Oh, John loves that place."But if you were chummy before, don't ignore him now -- that draws more attention than the occasional friendly moments does. No matter how covert you are, people are likely to catch on, but there's no need to broadcast it.
WHEN TO COME CLEAN
Most companies are lenient about dating (except between supervisors and their subordinates), says Lois Frankel, PhD, author of "Stop Sabotaging Your Career." "They recognize its ubiquity." But there may be rules about whom you have to inform and when.If it gets serious (i.e., several months), it's wise to tell your boss - even if you don't have to - before she hears it from someone else, notes Frankel. Just say "I wanted to let you know Brad and I are dating. We'll be sure not to let it interrupt our work."
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Sunday, 11 January 2009
Dating Relationship: They Love You to a Point
It started with a blind date. Neither of you expected it to amount to much but lo and behold something happened that surprised the both of you. Turns out you hit it off pretty good; very good actually. This led to more dates and before either one of you knew it, you were in a relationship.
Congratulations. Now much time has passed and things appear to moving to another level. But you're not quite sure. You know how you feel but when you try to raise the subject of commitment with your significant other, they change the topic.
You understand it's a scary issue with major ramifications; that's why you have been very hesitant about even bringing it up. You figured that time and reality would dawn on your significant other and the two of you would then sit down and decide in what direction this relationship was going.
They have not but this time you press the issue. The results are not pretty. Their stammering, defensiveness, and general ducking of questions is making you very angry so you decide to go for broke.
"Don't you love me?" Ouch. That's the atomic bomb of relationship questions. You set that one up figuring there is no wiggle room. But they throw it right back at you: "Sure I love you and if you loved me you wouldn't ask me to change what we have now." Better call the roof repair company because the chances are that answer is going send you thru the ceiling.
For some people commitment is fear personified. It's a door that locks behind them with no key to get out. They feel it's a lost of their freedom as well as identity since people are always going to see them as a significant other.
Why do people have this fear? It could be a past relationship which ended badly after they committed but the other person did not. It may also have been purely observational; they witnessed so many family and friends whose relationship seemed to fall apart when they decided to take it to the next level i.e. a deeper commitment. Your partner may have internalized those events and vowed there was no way they would ever be caught in that situation. Self preservation is a powerful motivator.
So what can you do? First off when you discuss commitment stay away from the "do you love me?" question. It sounds like you are setting them up for some kind of trap. That may not be your intent but to someone with a fear of commitment it smells like relationship blackmail off the starboard bow.
Instead share some of your concerns. Not just about the relationship but life in general and the future. Tell them how you feel towards them without expecting a verbal reciprocation. Encourage them to talk to people outside of the relationship that they are close to and feel they can trust. Also give them room to make their decision.
Now understand the answer they provide might not be the one you are looking for. They may decide to give you an ultimatum: either the relationship stays as is or it's time for the both of you to move on. That's a tough call but it happens so be prepared.
If they do toss that one at you then feel relieved. It's best to know where you stand than to have to drag somebody that is unwilling into a deeper relationship. Committing because you "forced" them to do it will only spell disaster in the long run.
Wednesday, 7 January 2009
How To Stop A Break Up Before It Is Too Late
Perhaps you have just broken up recently but you still care deeply about your ex. You really want to get him/her back. Therefore, you are wondering how you can stop a breakup.
Well, your chances of success will increase if you understand this principle, "People want what they do not have."
Have you come across this principle before? I believe you might have.
Have you ever wonder why people are sometimes willing to pay a high price to get something, especially when a lot of people are fighting over it. For example, during an auction, you might see many people trying to bid for an antique, with extraordinary high price.
It is precisely because of the principle above. People want they do not have or cannot easily have. The fact that there are so many people fighting over it makes it even more attractive and desirable.
However, imagine what happen if no one is fighting over it. The desire for the same thing will have fallen considerably.
This principle is in fact applicable to many other areas of your life. Of course, it also applies to your relationship.
Do you know why when a man/woman keeps on calling his/her ex, it will drive his/her ex even further away. This is because it is a sign of desperation. Nobody wants a partner who is desperate and needy. It is definitely a big turn off.
If you want to get your ex back, it is important to understand this principle. Before doing anything, make sure that you do not appear desperate or needy. This will increase your chances to get your ex back.
Sunday, 4 January 2009
Common Errors That Kill Romance
1. Cleanliness - Romance is a state of mind, an atmosphere. Whether it be your car or home, make sure the area is neat and tidy. No one wants to think about romance when they have to push stuff out of the way to sit down. Their vision should be of such things as candles, wine, flowers; not dirt, crumbs and mess.
2. Past relationships - Avoid this subject like the plague. Your date doesn’t want to hear how someone else broke your heart or how your last flame was an A**. This makes you look bad, not your old flame. If your date brings up the subject, just calmly say, “We just grew apart and went our separate ways,” or "We wanted different things out of life, so we split."
3. Hot topic subjects - What I mean is, when you are having a romantic evening for instance, don't talk about money, kids, politics or repairs that need done to the house. Instead talk about your hobbies, new things you want to try, great restaurants, your favorite foods, where you would like to vacation. You can talk about future dates together, what is romantic to you and what do you enjoy doing on your day off.
4. Personal hygiene - Yes, it is very important for romance. Smelling and looking your best makes a big impact on how the other person relates to you. Try to keep your hands and nails clean and neat, don't chew on your nails; big turn off! Your teeth are extremely important, visit a dentist and have dental work done if necessary. Who wants to look at or kiss a rotten mouth, no one! And don't wear dirty or holey clothes. If you don't take the time to look your best, why should your date take the time to spend with you?
5. Your mood - If you're in a bad or grumpy mood, it will show. Your date won't be able to relax with the tension. No relaxing = no romance. If you find yourself a little stressed out or in a grumpy mood, first sit down and quiet yourself for a few minutes. Think about how exciting your upcoming romantic rendezvous is going to be. How you will laugh and have a good time on your romantic adventure together. If a bad thought pops in your head, just dismiss it and think about something good again. Singing or humming a fun song can help fix your mood. And, don't get upset if things aren't going the way you envisioned during your date. So you couldn't get into the restaurant of your choice, try something different. Just going with the flow will ensure a fun and enjoyable time for both of you!